We have been matched!!!
Its been a crazy month! In less than a week we will be meeting our future child! I just can’t believe it. Any of my foster mamas or adoption mamas have any advice for the first meet? A is old enough to understand kind of what’s happening and going on.
We have been trying to prepare the house and A’s room. Anyone have any must haves when bringing a child(kindergartener) into your home?Anything we should get for A?
My emotions have been crazy! Everyday I have a moment of freaking out! Just can’t believe it has finally happened! In less than 3 months we will be parents! I’ll be sure to keep you updated on the process!
I wanted to give everyone an update. In a previous post I stated I was going to do the surgery for my endometriosis. Well…you see I never scheduled it. For a couple reasons, timing, scared, unknown, etc. We still feel the timing just isn’t right, and I just don’t want to know the answers that might come from it. 1) I have endometriosis. 2) I don’t have endometriosis, THEN WHATS MY PROBLEM? You see where I’m going with this. Cody and I talk all the time about what we want to do, and we both agree to put it on hold for a little longer and continue to have hope. We are still trying, every once in awhile I take a month off of OPKs but that’s all we are doing.
The adoption is taking a lot longer than I thought. And the whole process has been heart breaking for me. My heart is so open to love, every child I see I have some sort of pull to. But we haven’t found our match but are hopeful we will.
That’s all I have for now. Nothing really huge as happened but if it does you will know.
The hubs and I decided to whole30 at the start of the new year. We are on day 15! I can’t believe we’ve made it this far! It has really been easier than I thought it would be. I decided to do for many reasons. Some reasons are my Chronic Nausea(everyday I was nauseous!) heartburn, sleep issues, PAINFUL periods, acne and many more reasons. I also wanted to give TTC one last go before we are placed with a match for the adoption. Which is taking a lot longer than I thought. I’ve already have seen a difference, no more nausea or heartburn YAY! I am sleeping better and waking up better which is awesome! I haven’t seen a difference in my acne yet which I’m hoping I do. I’ve noticed I’m happier a lot more which probably comes from feeling fabulous! I believe this will be a lifestyle changes for us. I know I have to be gluten free but realizing there are other things that need to stay out of my diet. Here’s to the next 15 days! I’ll keep you guys posted!
Life has happened again. Time is flying by but at the same time going by so slow. I felt so empty and lonely this holiday season, even though we were surrounded by family. The adoption is taking longer than I expected. Even though they said for the age we are looking for (6 and under) would be hard. I just thought they were covering all cases but I guess I shouldn’t of gotten my hopes up. I really wanted a full house for Christmas.
During this time Cody and I have been preparing ourselves and our house for who ever comes into our life. We have been communicating with our social worker weekly and hearing about and reading about kids. We just haven’t found our match yet. We have been very close but we are at a disadvantage due to us having no parental experience (thanks again infertility). Since most of these kids have some type of trauma they are looking for parents who can handle these behaviors. Not saying we can’t, we just have never been given the chance. We are lucky our agency has so many resources, every time we talk about something with our social worker she states we have people to help you with that, we can role play so you can react the right way. Whatever that is thrown at us, we will be ready. Yes we aren’t going to be perfect parents but we are going to be great parents with struggles along the way.
What a relief!
The home study went great! I was stressing for nothing ha. We are unofficially approve. They have to finish writing up the report and then present it at the staff meeting. They are recommending us to the other stuff members in hopes to have them all agree to approval. Our social worker does not see any issues that would keep us from the approval.
In case you were unfamiliar, I wanted to give more information on the type of adoption we are going through. We are adopting from foster care. This means that the parents are currently having parental rights terminated or have already done so. We decided we did not want to adopt an infant. We would like to continue to try to have our own. The age we are currently looking for is 6 and under. We have decided a single child or a sibling pair would be best. Due to the young age we are requesting, we have been advised to look at children through the US instead of just locally.
We have begun requesting more information on children. Our social worker can provide some of the background of the children while we wait for the completed home study. Once the home study has been finalized, we can submit it to social workers in hopes of meeting children.
We are very excited and cannot wait for the home study to be completed.
Our final homestudy has been scheduled for Tuesday the 30th! Cody and I are extremely excited and little nervous as this is the last step before approval! I know we will be running around with our heads cut off trying to make the house perfect before then but excited to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I want to thank everyone who continues to support us!
I know I’ve been MIA again but we have just been in the waiting period. We were able to take a mini vacation down to Florida which was much needed! We’ve been preparing the rooms and house for a little one. Nothing to exciting. I’ll be sure to keep you updated!
Thanks for following our story!
I’ve stopped counting my cycles. Infertility has stopping running my life. Do I still think about from time to time? Of course usually when someone asks, or a TV show or a book I’m reading. A first I thought infertility wasn’t really talked about but it’s everywhere. The book I’m reading the main character had endometriosis and had suffered from a miscarriage. I keep wondering why I am getting lead down this path, this journey, maybe that’s why. Maybe my body can’t handle pregnancy and God doesn’t think I can go through the grief of a miscarriage. I know this is the path I’m supposed to be on, because it’s made me stronger, Cody and I have a different outlook for our family; and we have bonded more than ever.
We have also had some difficult discussions about; age, race, disabilities that we think we will be able to handle etc. If any of our friends or family members want to understand more I recommend reading Three Little Words by Rhodes-courter. It will make you cry but you will understand a little more of what the child and what we will be going through during the first couple months and even years later. For our family I really recommend the webinar Conspicuous Families on Adoptionlearningpartners.org. (Let me know and I’ll give you the logon)
We are in the final stages of the home study and have one visit left with our social worker that will be held in our home. We will have to be completed within the next 60 days (time line the background checks last). During this time we are preparing the house and doing any fixer upper things so we can focus on our family when the time comes.
We are still trying to raise money as I want to be able to take some maternity leave which will be unpaid. So I have started making some things. If any of you are interested message me and I’ll let you know cost.
Thank you all who have supported us and continue to support us. We are extremely excited for the next chapter.
Sorry I’ve been MIA again, I hope to get better at this blogging thing. Today is CD 3 another failed cycle, but I don’t feel the heartache quite so much anymore. My heart is full force moving forward with adoption, I am thankful for that. After months of disappointment, I’m not disappointed this month. I didn’t cry or get angry. This is a beginning of a new chapter for Cody and I. A huge chapter that I have nothing to be sad or angry about.We are beginning our family in a less than conventional way but we will be a family.
Things are moving along! We start the first day of training on Saturday, have been given our social worker and have received our packet in the mail. During this time we are getting the house ready to bring someone or someones home, to their home.
YOU SUCK. Thank you for ruining my weekend. No one truly understands what I go through. Not only was Saturday my worst day yet with endometriosis but it was also another reminder I’m suffering from infertility aka CD1. Do you think I like being laid up in bed all day because the pain is so bad I can’t sit up? Endometriosis is invisible and silent. From the outside I look normal in all reality that’s all I want to be is “normal.”
Here is a great article about what it is like to live with endometriosis. http://www.womenshealth.gov/blog/living-with-endometriosis.html
Next time I miss something, bail on my plans, or apologize for being a grouch, please know I don’t intend to, I dream of days where the pain won’t be there. Try to keep comments to yourself. You don’t walk in my shoes and you have no idea what it’s like to be living with endometriosis.
Mark your calendars for Saturday, May 21st.
We’re having an adoption fundraiser garage sale!
I’m so excited to announce that we’re planning a big garage sale on Saturday, May 21 from 8am-2pm to help build our adoption fund. We’re thinking HUGE and we’d love your help! I’ve read of many similar adoption sales bringing in anywhere from $1000-$4000 (CRAZY) so I’m praying that Lord uses this in mighty ways to help us. Please pray along with me!
What You Can Do
1) Set aside stuff to donate to our sale (clothes, toys, electronics, games, decorations, furniture, etc.). If you’re planning to donate clothing, it might be helpful to bag it according to size or at least baby/child/adult. Let us know and we will be able to pick it up.
2) Consider helping me run this crazy thing. I definitely cannot do this on my own! If you’d like to help by lending a table to place items on, volunteer to assist in pricing things, help me set out the stuff in the wee hours of the morning that Saturday, sign up to help handle the money during part of the sale, or volunteer to help tear down after it’s over, please let me know. You can leave me a comment below if you’re interested.
3) Pray for beautiful weather and generous buyers!
I’m so excited to be able to join with you to do this. I love that adoption is such a community thing where we can join together to reflect God’s heart. I can’t wait to see how the Lord uses this to help us gather the resources we need to adopt! Thank you so much for considering.