This is when it really hit me that maybe my definition of “mom” might be completely different than your definition. Many of you might not know that Cody and I have been struggling with infertility. Well actually most of you don’t know because this is the first time I have said to out loud. I am infertile, what does that mean? Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy to term after 12 months of trying to conceive. We are currently going on 18 months.
Here is a little back ground. I got off birth control september 2014. The first 6 months we were not necessarily trying to conceive but certainly were not preventing conception. After the 6 months I started tracking, using OPKs (ovulation prediction kits) and BD (baby dancing) when the time hit! Well that year went by slow and painful. Cody and I started discussing it was time to see a specialist, just to make sure nothing is preventing us. Better safe than sorry. So I made an appointment with my OBGYN to go over what’s next. Well you guessed it she referred us to a RE (reproductive endocrinologist) We started all the infertility testing. Labs, HSG (hysterosalpingogram) and seman analysis. Everything come back wonderful! My labs were perfect, tubes wide open, and seman was fast and plentiful! HA 😉 So what does that mean? We have been diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility.. Which means after the test results came back and no detectable reason for infertility is identified, the unexplained infertility diagnosis is given. This does NOT mean that there isn’t a reason for the infertility. It means that the science and the diagnostic tests are not advanced enough to detect the cause of infertility. Egg quality, fertilization, and implantation factors are difficult to test and may be the underlying problems….
We have been living with that diagnosis for six months. Deciding what is next, coping, discussing treatment options, other options, hoping, praying. Frankly, “Unexplained Infertility” really translates to, “I can’t find anything obviously wrong with you so let’s just dump you in this category.” Cody and I don’t believe in “unexplained infertility” it is BS. How can we (healthy, young, perfect 😉 ) people be infertile. So that leads us to my favorite quote. My definition of “mom” or “dad” might be different than yours.